Who has the right to be Married?

Let's start off the first political post for this blog with a doozy. Namely, gay marriage.

Once upon a time in a land far far away marriage was a religious thing. You showed up with someone, proclaimed them your spouse, and voila you were married.  Now you have to ask permission from the government, pay them for the right, and later ask their permission again followed by more payment to get rid of them...if you so choose.

Let's stop there. Does that in and of itself not sound WRONG to you? Forget who the spouses are. That doesn't even matter. Why do you have to tell them who you intend to marry, ask if it's ok, and then pay them to be allowed?

Folks, it's that simple. Who, when, where, and why you marry is none of their business. Why are we giving them the power to make these decisions for us? They shouldn't be in business of our good ole fashion marriages let alone in business for deciding whether or not non traditional marriages are legal. You want them to outlaw gay marriage? Do you realize that by doing so you are giving them the power to decide whether or not your marriage should be legal? You want them to legalize gay marriage? You realize that you too are giving them the power to make other such personal decisions about our daily lives?

What's wrong with gay marriage? It's a sin? Ok. So is your judging. Your drinking. Your cheating on your spouse. Murder. Rape. Have you ever stopped to think that MAYBE, just maybe, the point was there was no way around NOT being a sinner? We all have strengths and weaknesses. Maybe someone is really good about not judging people, they don't drink, rape, murder, or cheat, and their only big sin is being gay. Is that a worse sin than being a judgmental alcoholic who cheats on their spouse? *shrugs* 

Why do you (any of you, on either side of the argument) care who your neighbor goes to bed with at night? What impact does that have on your life? I do not waste my valuable time pondering whether or not my neighbor is going to bed with a man or a woman or both and how disturbed that makes me. I've got better things to do. Mostly things that involve my own spouse and children.

I'm in the business of being happy. That's all I want for myself. That's all I want for anyone. And that's the problem with any side asking the government to get involved. You are asking them to pick one group of people to be allowed happiness. You are giving them the ability to step into our daily lives and make choices for us as if none of us were responsible enough to make those decisions on our own.

Ok, so what do we do? We take that power away from them. They want to keep track of that stuff? I'll be waiting to hear of a GOOD reason why. What about marrying non legal citizens? Report it to the proper agency so that the person may acquire the proper papers to thus be a legal citizen. Want to ditch that spouse? Kick 'em out and move on. What business is that of the governments? Can't resolve your issues on your own? Go to court and let a judge make the hard choices. 

But the government performs weddings. If we take the power away from them, who will do that job now? If they are no longer in the business of controlling who we can and can't marry, and thus no longer making us pay them to be allowed to marry then who performs your marriage can be anyone. Provided you wanted an actual wedding. It could be just as simple as, Do you want to be my spouse? Yes! *married*

What about the benefits of being married? What benefits? The Social Security office currently offers free name changes for newly married people. Process would not change. Health insurance. It is in my experience that health insurance companies are moving into a more modern time already on their own. My husbands current employer offers benefits to same sex domestic partners as well as traditional domestic partners. What about taxes? Ohhh, that's a whole new post. But primarily, for the sake of this post, there shouldn't be any reason for anyone to not be allowed to file as married whom are living together as such and filing their taxes together regardless of gender.

And, that is my out of the box thought for this week. Stop asking the government for permission to do things that are non of their business. According to the Constitution the government is ruled BY the people not that the government rules the people. It's that simple. Why make more laws to clarify other laws when you can make less laws with no confusion.